In this episode, we continue our conversation with Karen, Wendy, Cindy and Dawn together and hear more from the group about secrecy and its long-lasting impact.
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The Disappointment of a Lack of Close DNA Matches
I used to see this in
my inbox and get terribly excited. My heart would race and my fingers couldn’t
log in fast enough.
Now I see this
notification and sometimes I don’t even log in right away.
Everyone says, “Don’t
stop believing…” Honestly some days I
do, and some days I don’t. My faith is high for
other people, and other things, but when it comes to having faith for myself, it’s often low. Maybe it’s that adoptee
curse of always feeling like you will be the one who is different. I logged in yesterday
to see my matches and none of them even made the front page. They weren’t close enough….like 5th-8th cousins.
Unless my father lives
to be an extremely old man of Biblical proportions, time is running out.
I continue to hold on
to all of my many blessings in life, and accept the fact that this may not be
one of them.
Bio Father Search: The Cold Case Just Got Hot!
Mr. Spin has the beginnings of dementia. This explains the merry-go-round of a conversation we had earlier this week. How do I know this? I called one of his
relatives that would be my cousin. (He has no bio children that we know of). I explained my situation and
made a plea for her to help me by taking a DNA test to reveal whether I am part of their family or not.
I hit the jackpot! She is nothing short of amazing!! She was overjoyed to help me. Before I told her anything about me personally, she mentioned something about feeling like, “this is the Lord.” I said, “Oh you’re a Christian? Well, so am I…” and things just took off from there. When I say we hit it off I mean like…we
already have plans to visit each other in person! She explained to me that although Mr. Spin has not been officially diagnosed with dementia, it is understood among the family that he has it. She had total compassion on my situation and welcomed me with open arms as a friend, and hopefully as family. As I sit here and update this blog at 11:00 PM, she is still texting me telling me how excited she is about this. It’s so great to have someone actually EXCITED about DNA testing for me, wanting this to be a match.
So, moments after our initial phone conversation I ordered a DNA
test through Amazon and she will have it Tuesday. I am pinching myself. If this is my paternal family, I already have at least one person who wants a relationship with me and has welcomed me with open arms.We’ve been sitting here on what has seemed like a
dead end for a few years. Although it’s seemed hopeless, Gayle Lechner and Regina Zimberlin have never given up and have worked the DNA, the trees and the circumstantial evidence relentlessly. Even when I felt overwhelmed like I couldn’t go another step they kept working it. And now suddenly, there’s a breakthrough and a possible definitive
answer. In a few weeks, I will know whether Mr. Spin and I are a match.
And now we wait. There is no suspense like waiting for a DNA test result. I hope I never have to know what it’s like again after this.
Ep 14. Scott’s Power of Emotional Choice: Taking Control of Your Life
In this episode of the Stories of Adoption podcast, host Jason interviews an anonymous organizational behaviorist, Scott McKena, who shares their experience of discovering their birth family through 23andMe. Scott discusses the emotional journey of connecting with their birth mother and the impact it had on their adoptive family. He also share their professional journey, co-founding Emotional Blueprinting, a company aimed at helping successful individuals manage burnout and dissatisfaction. Scott’s personal and professional experiences intertwine, highlighting the impact of adoption on core beliefs and emotional well-being.